Before The Wedding: Tips To Keep Your Engagement Engaging

There’s nothing quite like getting engaged – it’s one of the most exciting days of your whole life and holds promises of even more exciting days to come. But when you’re in the middle of preparing for your wedding, it can be pretty stressful, which means that at times your relationship might be a little fraught. Here are some tips to help you ensure that your engagement is just as much fun as your relationship has been so far…

Look At Your Engagement Differently

A lot of people think of their engagement simply as the run-up to their wedding and spend all of their time planning for their big day. Try to take a step back from that, and focus on the current stage of your relationship instead of frantically planning for the next one. You’ve promised to spend your lives together but you haven’t made those vows just yet – it’s time to appreciate being committed and together and footloose and fancy free all at the same time.

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Give Yourself Time

Getting married is incredible, of course, but it’s also one of the most stressful things you can do. A wedding might not seem all that difficult to plan but the truth is that it will take you a lot of time and cost you a lot of money – so don’t rush into it. Give yourself at least a year, preferably more, to organize your wedding. This will mean that you won’t get too stressed and you also won’t have too many problems with money as a result of not having much time to save.

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Keep Communicating

The fact that you’re engaged doesn’t mean that your relationship is now magically perfect. Now more than ever you have to make sure that you keep working on it, learning how to talk to each other and how to be kind to each other, and focusing on your life together. You could even consider going to counseling – it isn’t just for people who are having problems. If that isn’t for you, make sure that you start to communicate in a productive way – explain the way you feel, don’t be dismissive or snappy, and trust your partner to understand you.

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Be Organized With Your Planning

One way to make wedding planning a whole lot less stressful is to be organized. Give yourself plenty of internal deadlines and make a spreadsheet so you can see exactly what you’ve done, what you’ve paid for, and what you still need to organize. Speak to all your vendors as early as possible, from a wholesale diamonds seller to figure out your rings to a DJ who will enable you and your family and friends to dance the night away.

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Take A Vacation

Finally, it’s important to relish spending time together. Go on date nights at least once a week where you don’t talk about wedding planning at all, and take a vacation together once or twice. It doesn’t have to be expensive – just a weekend away during which you can turn your phones off, relax, and enjoy being together.

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Wedding Planning: Your First Vital Decisions

When you have a wedding to plan, there can be so much to think about that it is difficult to know where to begin. As with anything like this, it is useful to just start anywhere, as that way you can at least get going. But it can be helpful to know where a good place to start is, so that you can get off to a strong start. As it happens, there are certain aspects of planning a wedding which you probably want to get out of the way as early as you can. That way, you can free up your time for all the remaining things, the little details, and make sure you have got the big ones dealt with early on. Let’s take a look at which decisions you should be making as early as possible.

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Venue

Booking a venue can often be surprisingly difficult. In part, this is because you never quite know where will be free and when, but it is also because it just takes so much time. You don’t want to rush it, as it might be the single most important detail of the whole day. You want to make sure you are looking properly around the venue, considering every aspect of it, before you settle on anything. And it can often be frustrating to discover that your ideal venue is way above your budget. All of these complications mean that you should try and book your venue in as early as you possibly can.

Rings

Although these might not seem as important on the scale of the venue and so forth, there is a very good reason that you should get the rings over and done with. For a start, many couples know the experience of leaving the reigns to the very last minute. This happens simply because they seem to be such a small part of the whole decision making process. However, if you leave it too late, you might end up having to rush and choosing rings which are not what your ideal would be. If you really care about which wedding rings you have, then you should be sure to get this done as early as you can, so that you can find rings you really want.

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Date

Along with the venue, around the same time, you obviously need to pick a date. It is generally helpful to have the date slightly loose, so that you can work it around the venues a little easier. But once you have found a venue which suits your dates, then you should lock it in as early as you can. This will take most of the stress out of it, and also means that you can begin sending around the save the date cards. That is one of those steps which often makes it seem very suddenly real, so it is worth it just for that. If nothing else, this will help you to feel that you can start to get excited for your own wedding  -and that is a great feeling indeed.

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